Success in both work and life requires resilience and the ability to weather the inevitable storms. The key to building resilience is to focus on the areas of your life that you have 100% control over. This means surrounding yourself with the right people, optimizing your environment, and taking responsibility.
This is the advice I give to the leaders I mentor and those who want to succeed.
1. Surround yourself with the right people
If you put crabs in a bucket, they can easily crawl up. However, if you put too many crabs in the same bucket, the crabs will never get out because the other crabs won’t allow it. They actually have a name for this. It’s called the “crab mentality,” and it perfectly illustrates how the people around you hold you back.
Who do you spend the most time with? Do you associate with people who inspire you and push you to get where you want to go, or who hold you back or discourage you? ?
Focus on the people closest to you first, but realize that negative influences can come from many different areas of your life. may affect If we can recognize what its negative effects are, it becomes easier to limit them or even remove them from our lives.
After all, you attract what you put out there. I have distanced myself from people who are on different paths, so people who are on the same path as me or who have already reached where I want to be, either in sport, personal or professionally. Some of the people I am closest to today are those I met on various business trips, retreats and events. Because we are all in the same boat heading in the same direction. Our values and goals align. However, it’s also important that these people you hang out with are honest with you. Don’t be surrounded by people who always tell you what you want to hear. It’s important to receive sound and constructive criticism that allows you to grow and get better.
Whenever you’re stuck, depressed or in trouble, one phone call picks you up and can completely change your perspective so you can relate to and experience what you’re experiencing. Having a good person in your corner who understands is invaluable.
2. Optimize your environment
If your goal is to improve your nutrition to lose weight and become healthier, you want to do everything possible to make it easier to reach that goal. If you tend to do so, don’t buy junk food and keep it around the house.
If you’re trying to get into the habit of going to the gym in the morning but you’re having trouble getting your body moving, prepare the night before. Lay out your gym clothes and everything you need for the evening and you’re ready to go.
If you want to start journaling but are having trouble getting started, try keeping your journal where you see it first thing in the morning. Downloading a journaling app that offers some guidance may point you in the right direction.
If your goals rely on more efficient time management, but you find yourself easily distracted throughout the day or spending a lot of time looking at your phone, here are some hacks to prevent it Please create It might be as simple as leaving your phone on the other side of the room when you sit and work so you can check it for yourself during designated times.
These are all simple steps to make your environment more conducive to achieving your goals.
3. Take responsibility
One of the most common patterns to break is making excuses or playing the victim. Many people get so good at this that they don’t even realize they’re doing it, but when they see someone else doing it, it’s easy to spot.
This became clearer when I started working in the mortgage business. I had to do a credit check on my prospects and see how they spent their money. Some have 25 collections on his account, most of which will immediately say, “This is not mine.” They each have their own excuses. It’s all about blaming others, but what they didn’t realize was that until they figured this out, they were always going their own way.
Get into the habit of being honest with yourself. It’s natural to try to pamper yourself by covering your eyes to make you feel better, but that’s only holding you back. Learning to take responsibility paves the way for growth.
Bill Murphy the author of prosperity in the stormis a nationally recognized mortgage originator that has been a top producer for 25 years. He has been the business coach of the Fairway Ignite Program since 2017, is a marathoner, ultramarathoner, Ironman finisher and holds a Krav Maga 2nd degree black belt.
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